You don't need a man to be happy

It took me a long time in my life to realize this. It's not about hating men. I'm not blaming them. Shit, it may even be my own shortcoming. I simply do not like needing someone else's approval for who I am. I don't want to worry about whether or not I look good enough for someone (spoiler: as I age I probably don't). I also just want to live my life as I choose without being constantly judged or criticized. The number one critical person is usually going to be your partner and that goes for men and women alike. No thanks! I'm happy with myself even though someone else might not be happy with me, so why would I invite someone else's displeasure into my life? It's not worth it. I deserve to feel happy with myself just like we all do.

Why do we seek someone to "enjoy" good times with when most of the time they end up ruining our experience. For every magical moment, 2 people share it seems there are 99 others when they are not on the same page. When alone you can have exactly the moment you want to have 100% of the time.

For women who are unhappy being single, I suggest finding happy women who have gone the path before you. You might be surprised that they are not the lonely old spinsters you might imagine. I recently met a woman in her 60's who divorced long ago and never looked back. She looked fantastic. She spent 2 hours at the gym every day. Her face had no lines because she was at peace. Her home is adorable and fun and everything perfectly in its place because it all belongs to her. Her weekends involve going out with the girls or taking overnight trips. She was so happy without men and she helped me realize that I could be too!

Take care, everyone!