Investing your time and feelings in a man and then hearing about his cold feet and plans to break up with you can have you swearing off men altogether. But, before you do that, try using these two magic words.
First, I want to say that you may be tempted to argue with him and explain that the reasons he’s not ready aren’t valid. Don’t do that. Telling him, explaining to him, just makes you his mom. Men are not turned on by their mothers.
Now, this is how to get your ex back. Whenever you hear an excuse that sounds like utter nonsense, say the magic words: I understand.
Then, say nothing else. After the pregnant pause, he will go on to elaborate even more trivial reasons that will infuriate you and goad you into an argument. Again, instead of biting say, “I understand”.
This will lead him to one simple conclusion: “She understands me.”
I’m not saying that you agree with him. I’m saying that everyone has the right to be, feel, think and share their way. Although you don’t agree with him you acknowledge his right to his decision and you understand.