Dating is a blast! There are so many things the two of you
can share together. After all, quality time spent together, regardless of
price, is what matters most in a relationship. Whether you’re newly in a
relationship setting the foundation for your future together, or have been in a
relationship for a while and looking to create fluidity in your life together,
these 11 activities you should be doing to bond with your partner will steadily
spark your relationship’s flame and secure a wholesome relationship.
1. Decompress:
Take time to reconnect with nature. From sitting in the
garden together to laying on a desolate beach, it’s important to get away from
the crowds. Stop keeping up with the Joneses for a moment, relax, and take
nature in. Let the pair of you slumber a little or daydream, and as thoughts
enter your mind bring them up for conversation. Let the connection with nature
allow you to nurture your mind’s capacity for calm composed thought. Through
these thoughts and dialogue in an ultra-relaxed setting, a couple can
intertwine truth of thought, and express feelings without the daily
distractions of phones, news, and bills!
2. Be Intimate:
Nothing allows greater connection than intimacy. While we
are humans, the reflection of animals in nature and their intimate moments
teach us about closeness. Think of how chimpanzees groom each other! If you
have ever watched a documentary where they show this, you will see that the
often hysterical chimpanzee barreling through the jungle becomes very calm,
sedate, and peaceful with the partner they are grooming. I am not suggesting
you groom your partner! However gentle touches, hugs, kisses, hands being held,
these all lend intimate physical reassurance that love exists between the two
of you, and prove a determining factor in the bond between a couple.
3. Set A Budget:
Yes, I know the word “budget” immediately sounds a total
bore and the last thing that might bring a couple together. However, for those
who do a budget and rein in their financial acumen, there will be an inevitable
period of pain while the painstaking task is undertaken, but once you have a
cash flow understanding that you both share, the knowledge of how you are TRULY
spending your hard earned money will enlighten and bring closeness between the
two of you. Finances can bond a couple in unison to achieve a united goal.
When working towards a specific goal such as purchasing a
vehicle, home, planning for retirement, where to invest, if you should open a
401k, open an IRA, simply start saving rather than spending, reducing debt, all
of these items when handled as a couple can alleviate stress. In alleviating
stress further compounds the closeness of two individuals. It all starts with
the two of you reviewing checking and savings accounts for all the spends and
then enjoying the decision-making process of where the pair of you SHOULD be
sending your money.
4. De-Clutter:
A home or apartment inevitably generates its own issues of
STUFF. Stuff is generally things that both of you have, but don’t you use that
often, or at all. This game is a totally fun thing to do that can easily bond
couples because clutter is a known stressor. To de-clutter a closet or garage,
for instance, is to start this way: everything in the closet or garage gets
placed in the middle of the space, then the pair of you go through the items when
you see something you absolutely love, say “absolutely love it”, and that goes
into one pile. Next, is the “sentimental to me” pile, and place each of your
items into that pile. The last pile is the “I can let go of you, thanks for
your time” pile.
Once you have distributed everything, take the “I can let go
of you, thanks for your time” pile and take it to be donated. This way your
de-clutter is something the two of you do together, its fun, and will bring
back memories all in one session. After the de-clutter buy some cheap storage
bins with drawers and place items that are similar in nature into these storage
bins. Tidiness is an appreciation of each other’s space and cleanliness is next
to godliness! Overall, it is spiritually uplifting to be tidy and at the end
perhaps enjoy a little make-out session to celebrate a job well done!
5. Make love:
Duh! Seriously though, make love, don’t have sex. Making
love is truth and sex is a performance indicator. Too often men and women
adjudicate performance in the bedroom rather than let love do its
thing. If you are not motivated to make love, then we have work to do as a
couple and I strongly recommend couples therapy to begin the path to
enlightenment. If you make love, you will definitely feel closer, united, and
have a bond that is innate to your nature
Remember we are not ethereal, we are of the earth and are
animals described as mammals with high functioning brains. It is the high
functioning part that detects love over sex, and sex over love. Complex feelings
are what separates us. If we address these complexities to the path where a
bond can be found at the zenith of the existential part of us, then all of us
would have a greater understanding.
6. Kiss Goodnight:
Routine checking in for affection is as important for a
little baby as it is for a 52-year-old adult grumpy male. Don’t forget to hug
each other, cheer each other on, kiss each other, and take the time to let
physical expression sink in as a constant reminder of the bond that exists.
7. Take A Vacation:
Yay!! Time to get away, camp, or reserve a weekend getaway.
No matter who you are, no matter what your budget, every single year be
absolutely sure to get out of dodge! You get one go around as a couple, and the
last thing you want on your tombstone is “I wish I spent more time at the
office!” So ignore the desire to make more money and be sure to take time out
your life. Bonds are often rekindled on vacation and memories are definitely
made. All of us have those vacation pictures that we treasure, so keep on
keeping on, and don’t be afraid to splurge (if you have the budget), as a
little pampering for both of you. It can do a world of good!
8. Turn Off The Phone At Dinner:
Okay everyone… texting, looking at your news feed, reading
the latest blog, checking out your next 5-star rated Amazon purchase all seems
so important, but the truth is it is all a distraction from the most important
thing of all… your relationship. Look at each other, talk to each other, and
find each other’s company more important than your relationship with your
phone. Build on the bond of agreeing to phone downtime. Even those of you who
run your business through your phone, have the discipline to know it can wait
for an hour or two because numero uno is your partner.
9. Play This Game:
Hey honey, can we play the “This is kind of bothering me”
game? Both of you agree to play the game, one starts sharing, the other
listens, and vice versa. This game promotes understanding of your partner and
communication is key in any bond for any couple. This game simply makes it easy
to bring out underlying issues. The rules of the game are that it is a totally
safe place where everyone speaks calmly, listens and responds on how they can
help with those concerns or issues. Bonding becomes deeper with understanding
and care, so work as a pair in this slightly awkward but ultimately rewarding
game.
10. Buy A Gift:
A gift can be something under $10.00. What’s relevant is
its meaning. Only you can know if a gift will have meaning to your
loved one, so I will not make suggestions. However the planet is filled with
millions and millions of items, do a search relevant to what your loved one
loves, and order a gift, get it gift-wrapped, and surprise them! If you can,
capture the moment on video! It’s sure to have smiles, tears, or laughter, and
either way, it will bond the pair of you.
11. Take A Bullet:
At some point, either one of you is going to seriously screw
up. It’s who we are as humans. It will test your bond and it may even take it
to the eclipse of a breakup. Even in the darkness, there is light. Ask
yourself, “do you believe that your partner would take a bullet for you?” If
you do, forgive, and understand that screwing up is part of the cycle of
existence. Yeah, guys, on most fronts you’re more likely to screw up than us
gals, but us gals make mistakes too.
Some things need more than a gift or flowers. Some things
need a partner to inherently to know that you sacrifice. While it may never
ever materialize (thank you so much for that), it’s needed to be known as a
pre-thought and to be as consistent as the sun rising every morning, and the
clouds of life always break free and the sun can shine on love once again.
Without this constant cycle of ups and downs, pain, and glory, we are left
without the knowledge of the sunbeam moments where the best of life is
experienced by those of us who live in harmony in broad sunlit pastures.
11 Activities You Should Be Doing To Bond With Your
Partner
Now that you’ve read The 11 Activities You Should Be Doing
To Bond With Your Partner, it’s time to perform them! Strong relationships are
continually nurtured with care and communication. Bonds are there to be tested,
but there are many types of glue all with varying potency, the right mixture to
ensure the bond never breaks is to work within the suggestions above, and that
glue will hold a skyscraper.