Are you a sex-starved wife? A woman who deeply desires more satisfying sex with your husband? Would you settle for just more sex? Or to put it more accurately, would some sex do?
If so, I am not surprised that the title of this book piqued your interest. You are craving a loving, passionate, juicy, sexual relationship with your man. And you deserve it! The good news is that you've come to the right place. Although we've never met, I know what you've been going through and how the difference in your and your husband's sex drives has taken a toll on you. I also know that until now, effective help for your problem has been in short supply. But that's all about to change. I am going to be your personal coach and help you become an expert on getting your love life back on track.
Perhaps it started out on fire; you couldn't keep your hands off each other, and your lovemaking was frequent and passionate. But somewhere along the line, things changed. Maybe it was when you got pregnant or when the kids were born. Or perhaps the problem started when his job became ultra-stressful. It might have been around the time you started arguing about money, in-laws, or who does what around the house. Maybe it was the twenty pounds you gained or the medicine he takes every day. Or his lack of interest in sex could have something to do with his difficulties maintaining an erection, you wonder. You got dizzy trying to figure things out.
Maybe the signs of your husband's sexual sluggishness were there all along. Looking back, you now realize that you just assumed things would get better. But time passed and nothing changed. In fact, things even got worse. He almost never seems interested in you. So, out of desperation, you resigned yourself to the role of initiator. You had to. If it weren't for you, in fact, you'd never have sex. But now you've grown tired of always being the one to reach out, always being the one to risk rejection, always being the one who cares. And the fights about sex have become exasperating. The loneliness is slowly killing you. And he just doesn't get it. Or, you wonder, "Worse yet, does he? Is he doing this to punish me?"
Finally, when analyzing your feelings, his feelings, your marriage, your motives, his intentions, has gotten you nowhere, perhaps you have tried to get your husband to do something about his lack of desire — talk to your family doctor, get a checkup, go to a therapist. But he won't. He can't understand why you're making such a big deal about this sex thing and why you simply won't stop nagging. Everything would be okay, he tells you, if you would just back off. Or maybe he has gotten medical or psychological advice in the past but his follow-through stinks. You've grown weary of repeating, "What good does testosterone do sitting on a nightstand?" You don't want to pressure him and damage his fragile male ego. You just don't know what to do anymore.
How can you openly admit that the man you married, the man you love, the man with whom you plan on spending the rest of your life, doesn't desire you? You ask yourself, "What's wrong with me. Aren't I attractive?" How did you manage to hook up with the one man in the world who would prefer doing just about anything other than making love to you? Why isn't he like all the other guys?
Well, your husband may not be like all the other guys, but you're about to discover that he isn't as unique as you think. In fact, after almost three decades of working with couples and knowing what really goes on behind closed doors, I'm here to tell you that your guy isn't unique at all. Believe it or not, there are millions of men who, for a variety of reasons, just aren't in the mood. In fact, I'm convinced that low sexual desire in men is America's best-kept secret. But why, you ask yourself, should this topic be so hush-hush when women talk openly about their "Not tonight, dear" declarations with anyone who will listen? The short answer: it's different for men.
Dry spells – lack of sεx – is something that almost every human can relate to. But do you know what is happening to your body when you’re in one of those long dry spells? Read on to find out!
Many don’t have an idea of the effects of lacking sεx. Here is a clue according to research by The British Association for Sεxυal Health and HIV.
Sεx isn’t just something that feels good at the moment – it can make you feel good all day long.
It’s well known that the release of endorphins during and after lovε-making improves your mood and makes you less stressed. So, when you stop, you will no longer benefit from that release.
Guys who stop having sεx may miss out on the prostate-protecting perks of frequent trysts. A study presented to the American Urological Association found men who have more sεx had a 20% drop in their risk for prostate cancer. One reason? Frequent εjacυlations may remove potentially harmful substances from the prostate.
Sεx according to the research boosts immunity. According to a research, people who had sεx once or twice a week enjoyed a 30% boost in immunoglobulin A (IgA), compared with those who had sεx seldom or never.
Sεx also helps you manage your bladder muscles and keep off εrεctilε dysfυnction. The more you have sεx, the easier it’s for you to get aroυsεd.
In high school, whenever a female teacher was in bad mood, guys would whisper “she needs sεx”. Then it seemed like just a saying. But according to the research, when you have sεx you can’t get more anxious because there’s a decrease in “feel-good” hormones being released.
Sεx can help you control your stress levels.
On the positive side of things, you may start having sεx dreams or even 0rgasm in your sleep. It’s not the same as the real deal, but it’s a nice substitute.
There’s an old wives’ tale that abstinence makes you more intelligent. The truth is actually the opposite: Scientists have demonstrated that sεxυal activity boosts neuron growth in the brain’s hippocampus.
Having sεx can be like a workout for your Kegels. stopping only loosens them. So no, you will not become re-virg_inalisεd.
You might feel more depressed and anxious.
Sεx isn’t just something that feels good at the moment – it can make you feel good all day long.
It’s well known that the release of endorphins during and after lovε-making improves your mood and makes you less stressed. So, when you stop, you will no longer benefit from that release.
Men, sεx can help you avoid prostate cancer.
Guys who stop having sεx may miss out on the prostate-protecting perks of frequent trysts. A study presented to the American Urological Association found men who have more sεx had a 20% drop in their risk for prostate cancer. One reason? Frequent εjacυlations may remove potentially harmful substances from the prostate.
You easily get colds and flues.
Sεx according to the research boosts immunity. According to a research, people who had sεx once or twice a week enjoyed a 30% boost in immunoglobulin A (IgA), compared with those who had sεx seldom or never.
Less bladder control and εrεctilε dysfυnction.
Sεx also helps you manage your bladder muscles and keep off εrεctilε dysfυnction. The more you have sεx, the easier it’s for you to get aroυsεd.
Your stress levels increase.
In high school, whenever a female teacher was in bad mood, guys would whisper “she needs sεx”. Then it seemed like just a saying. But according to the research, when you have sεx you can’t get more anxious because there’s a decrease in “feel-good” hormones being released.
Sεx can help you control your stress levels.
Your dreams change.
On the positive side of things, you may start having sεx dreams or even 0rgasm in your sleep. It’s not the same as the real deal, but it’s a nice substitute.
Your intelligence stagnates.
There’s an old wives’ tale that abstinence makes you more intelligent. The truth is actually the opposite: Scientists have demonstrated that sεxυal activity boosts neuron growth in the brain’s hippocampus.
Ladies, you won’t get tighter.
Having sεx can be like a workout for your Kegels. stopping only loosens them. So no, you will not become re-virg_inalisεd.