“Have you ever told someone more they need to know “?
“Have you had a phone conversation and right after you
regret saying more than you should”?
Well, you are not alone….. This article is just for you,
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Truth is Lots of us have a bad habit of wearing our hearts
on our sleeves. This can make us an open book even to strangers. We definitely
don’t want that – mystery is the spice of life, after all. Keeping a clear
distinction between your personal life and your professional life is a
difficult (but very important) skill to master. You have to be very picky who
you share your secrets with, because, unfortunately, not everyone has good
intentions.
Importantly, you need to be careful to make sure that the
details of your personal life can’t be used to hurt you. It’s useful to have a
basic list of certain personal information you should never share with others.
If you don’t know how to make your own list, we’re here to help. In fact, we’ve
combined some secrets you should always try to keep to yourself, no matter how
strong the urge to share them with everyone.
According to Joan Collins; “The secret of having a personal
life is not answering too many questions about it.”
HERE ARE 6 SECRETS TO NEVER TELL ANYONE ABOUT YOUR PERSONAL
LIFE
1. Past Resentments
We all have negative stories about our personal life to tell
about people we don’t like. (Remember those schoolmates or former colleagues
that you held a grudge against years ago – and maybe still do? Yeah, same
here.) It’s always best to let go of these feelings and discuss them as little
as you can in public. This is for you as much as for others, because negativity
is exhausting. Not just to feel but also to listen to. People prefer
communicating with positive conversation partners, those who have interesting
insights to provide – not ones who gripe about some other people they don’t
even know. Let go of whatever’s weighing you down. Try to focus on the present
and you’ll find that more and more people will be keen to talk to you.
2. Material Belongings
As we all know, certain things in life are far more
important than their cost. But sometimes, we can’t help but brag about the new
car we have, or the new phone we just bought at an exclusive price. As much as
Parks and Recreation might tell you otherwise, your colleagues don’t want to
know about how you’ve been treating yourself. It can make you come off as
arrogant and overly obsessed with the monetary value of things rather than
their unique significance. Modesty is a wonderful accessory. You should try and
spread it throughout your conversations.
3. Goals for the Future
You might find this unlikely, but there is actually science
behind the fact that you’re much more likely to achieve your long-term goals if
you don’t share them with others. When you tell others about your future
aspirations, you almost feel as if the enjoyment of achieving the goal has been
taken from you. As a result, you don’t work as hard towards it. If you keep
your goals to yourself, however, you have a much higher chance of achieving
them. And once you have done that, feel free to tell the whole world about it.
4. Your Income
Only one group of people should be allowed to know the
details of your income: the people who work in your bank. Money is never a nice
subject to talk about in public because you never know what anyone’s financial
situation looks like. It may seem like you’re bragging without meaning to.
Money – and knowledge about finances – can shift relationships irreparably.
Once your financial situation becomes public knowledge, people just start
looking at you differently without being able to help it. To save yourself from
that kind of awkward situation, keep the details of your income to your bank
statements.
5. Good Deeds
You may have heard that good deeds always attract good
karma. That’s true, and you should never be discouraged from doing good – however,
if you start bragging about it, it takes on a whole different perspective. Once
you brag about something good that you’ve done, you’re making it all about
yourself, thus invalidating the good that you’ve already created. Many of the
greatest philanthropists in the world remain anonymous for a very good reason.
When you do a charitable deed, you want the attention to be on the people or
the cause that you’re helping and not on yourself.
6. Family Problems
Whether it’s your extended family or your blood relatives, keep the problems in the family. Don’t abuse people’s trust. You’ve been told those secrets because you are close to these people, but they haven’t allowed you to spread them around to everyone in your social circle. They confided in you, and breaking that confidence is the worst thing you could possibly do. Be respectful of other people’s secrets. In return, you can expect for them to treat you the same.