Natural solutions to women who think their private parts are too big

LET’S face it. A lot of women have a complicated relationship with their private parts. We think they’re smelly and that they look ugly. When it comes to sex and penetration, we often want it to be small and tight, and wonder if it is too big. When we judge it to be too big, it starts influencing how we feel about that important part of our body and relate to it with shame, complaining that it can’t hold him in, that it slips and slides and that it is, if not already, the cause of all our sexual frustrations.

Worrying about size is understandable after all ‘am I too big or too small’ is one of the frequently asked questions about our sex organs. But we’re not just secretly wondering if we are too big down there. We are taking steps that confirm that we think we are big and big is not sexually attractive – at least if the popularity of vaginoplasty (an operation to tighten the vagina) is anything to by. Vaginoplasty is the collective name of cosmetic vagina procedures that include the reconstruction, rejuvenation, and tightening of the vagina. Another point to consider is the popularity of muthi that claims to tighten a so-called loose vagina.

There is a long-standing perception that if your vagina is loose, then you are a busy body who has slept with a lot of men. But this is not the case. A vagina can become big for various reasons. Chief among them is childbirth. When giving birth the vagina stretches to allow the baby to come out. This can lead to the tearing of the skin between the vagina and the anus. According to Dr. Suzy Elneil, a consultant in urogynaecology, “The vagina can feel loose, softer and more ‘open’. It may also look and feel bruised or swollen. This is normal, and the swelling and openness should start to reduce a few days after your baby is born.”

If you are worried about it being loose, vaginal laxity can be overcome by some easy, painless, natural options:

• The first and foremost step would be to follow a proper good diet that will improve inner muscle strength and thus contribute to better vaginal health. Eating a healthy diet that is high in fibre can help maintain a healthy body weight and also reduces the chances of frequent constipation that can cause weakening of pelvic muscles. Pelvic floor can be strengthened with a strict diet that include oestrogen rich foods like pomegranates, soybeans, carrots, apples, berries etc…. 

• Pelvic floor can be kept stronger by controlling stress and limiting unnecessary strain by avoiding lifting heavy weights and to adopt a squatting position during bowel movements specially if constipated.

• The pelvic floor is part of a larger group of muscles called “core.” Keeping all the core muscles toned, along with thighs and glutes, might be the best option for pelvic floor health. Exercises that can strengthen the pelvic floor are:

• Kegel exercises are one of the most recommended and popular ways of tightening the vagina. The clench and release exercise is what constitutes the Kegel exercise. Kegel’s exercise is the action of engaging the pelvic floor muscles, holding for 5–10 seconds and releasing. This is done about 5–10 times in a row, a few times a day. The pelvic floor muscles become stronger because of this and thus help in tightening the vagina.

• Having great sex is fantastic for strengthening pelvic floor muscles and is as effective as Kegel’s exercises. There is no right or wrong of enjoying sex. The contractions a woman has while reaching orgasm are the ideal strengthening for vaginal muscles. Vaginal walls contract at approximately 0.8-second intervals and then relax as the climax subsides.

• squats are good for pelvic floor toning and vaginal tightening. Standing with legs spread and the hips turned out, have to go down like sitting on a bench. Then, go up, stand for some time and then again squat and sit down.

• Pelvic stretch can be done to strengthen the pelvic muscles. Easiest way to do the pelvic stretch is to sit on the edge of a chair and keeping the legs spread, bend towards the ankles and spread the arms out. Pelvis area has to be folded inside.  This exercise is one of the most effective ways of strengthening vaginal muscles and tightening the vagina.

• Glute bridges are great for tightening the vagina, while lying down. Positioning the knees up and parted slightly apart with feet touching the floor, slowly but surely raising the hips up off the floor and tensing the glutes, form a bridge from the shoulders touching the floor and hold at the top, before slowly bringing the hips back down.

• Leg ups are great exercises for tightening the vagina, helping to build pelvic muscle strength. Lying flat with back on the floor, tense the abdominal muscles and slowly lift the legs without bending the knees, one after the other up towards the ceiling. This will really help to work pelvic floor muscles and keep them right and tight.

• Medicine ball sit ups is a more advanced method of vaginal tightening and it’s great for helping the abdominal packs as well. Sitting with knees bent and feet on the floor, go to lying down with back on the floor. Holding a medicine ball in outstretched hands, slowly sit up, tensing abdominal muscles gradually.

• Pelvic tilt exercises can strengthen vaginal muscles. Standing with shoulders and back against a wall and keeping both the knees soft, pull the bellybutton in towards the spine, While the back should flatten against the wall. Tighten the bellybutton for 4 seconds, then release. A set of 10 repetitions is ideal to work the pelvic muscles.

• Vaginal cones strengthen pelvic floor muscles by using resistance. Also known as vaginal weights, this is weighted, tampon-sized bulbus shaped object that when inserted in to the vagina, muscles squeeze to hold it in place through passive contraction. Weights can be paired with active contractions or other exercise at the same time. The weight of the cone can be increased to hold the cone in place, thus increasing the work for vaginal muscles.

Vaginal weights are worn for short periods of time up to several times a day. Duration of use will depend on how heavy they are and on independent goals.

• Herbal Remedies – Soaking in baths of vinegar dissolved in water is a popular and easy home remedies for a tight vagina. Aloe vera gel can be diluted in a bowl of water and used as a wash for the vaginal area. The astringent property of Aloe vera is known to help tighten the tissues. These remedies followed over a period of time can help restore vaginal tightness.

• Yoga’s potential sexual benefits may result from its relaxing effects, the way it focuses attention on sensation, the pelvis-strengthening effects of many yoga poses, improved self-image from engaging in exercise, or a mix of these.

While many of the above-discussed natural methods are safe and appropriate for women of various fitness levels, elderly women and those with mobility issues or osteoporosis should check with their healthcare provider. Guidance from a urogynaecologist and a pelvic floor physical therapist can help achieve desired vaginal tightness naturally.

Another reason for the vagina to feel loose or big is that when it is aroused, it becomes lubricated to allow penetration. Like men, blood flows to our sex organs when we are aroused. But unlike men, women get wet instead of getting hard and get wetter during sex. If you are worried about your private part being loose: Do it with the man on top. The aim is to get him to lift himself up once he is inside you, you close your legs so your thighs squeeze his manhood.

Here are 3 popular vagina tightening home remedies that you should avoid at all costs:

1. Food of Any Kind

Food goes in your mouth. Nowhere else. Do not put any food items inside your vagina, period. Your doctor would never recommend this and any online resource or friend who does is sharing bad information.

People have long touted various food items as miracle cures for various vaginal maladies. Apple cider vinegar and lemon have been said to reset the acidity levels in your vagina and possibly tighten the vaginal walls. Because of their high acidity, both of these can cause major pain and irritation inside and around the vagina, vulva, and labia, and can even worsen incontinence. Lemon and lime juice also do not prevent the spread of HIV or other STIs, as some people claim.

Some people also use yogurt because of its low acidity, hoping to balance pH levels, tighten the vaginal canal, or replenish the good bacteria inside their vaginas. This is also nonsense. Yogurt does not carry the same strains of bacteria as those that make up your vaginal microbiome. In fact, most yogurts contain sugars that, when introduced, could cause or worsen yeast infections.

While eating well can have an overall effect on your vaginal health, there are no foods that can be eaten or inserted that can tighten your vaginal canal. Moreover, your vagina is a self-cleaning organ and does not need outside cleaning help. If you have an infection, your doctor can prescribe antibiotics.

2. Herbs and Spices

Your vagina is an organ, not a soup, so do not insert herbs and spices into it! Turmeric, a spice frequently touted as a miracle cure for everything from arthritis to cancer does have some health benefits but has not been shown to tighten the vagina when ingested or inserted. Inserting turmeric could lead to irritation.

A related plant, Curcuma comosa, shows up frequently in vagina-tightening marketing ploys as a proven tightening agent. However, these effects are far from proven! Curcuma comosa did lead to some tightening in rats’ uteruses in one decades-old study but has not been tested on, let alone proven to help human women.

Witch hazel and aloe vera are also often used as remedies for a wide range of ills. Some women prefer aloe as a natural lubricant, and while it may not be as harmful as some of the other items on this list, it does not offer any tightening effects and should not be applied internally without first consulting your doctor, especially if it contains anything other than 100% pure aloe, straight from the plant.

Similarly, plants like boiled gooseberries should not be inserted. At best, they will have no effect. At worst, they can cause damage like burns and tears if they’re too hot when inserted! In fact, you should always avoid using hot water near your vagina, including inserting or spraying hot water inside or squatting over steam baths. Hot water can scald the inside and outside of your vagina and vulva area and may introduce harmful bacteria.

3. Tightening products, pills, gels, and creams

It is also worth pointing out that there are plenty of products available that supposedly help you tighten your vagina, but they are simply scams that monetize your insecurities and feed you a placebo effect. There are no pills you can take orally that will help with the tightness of your vaginal walls or pelvic floor.

Similarly marketed tightening creams and gels are made of glycerin, just like some lubes — so not only do they have no effect on tightness or firmness, but glycerin has also been known to lead to yeast or bacterial infections. No thank you!

These products cannot help you with your genuine health concerns and, even worse, they prey on your insecurities to convince you that something is wrong with your body even when that’s not true.